Saturday, April 17, 2010

I realised something today, somewhere I have lost the great art of just sitting and relaxing...
I am always doing something, you know the minute you sit down, a task you should really be doing pops into your head, and you are no longer relaxing.
Oh you can continue to sit where you are, but relax............... no because now you are feeling guilty for just sitting there doing nothing.
Well today, I sat and watched TV for a whole hour....had no choice, a small project, not being done by me, was taking longer than it should have, and I had nothing to do but watch TV till it was finished.
It felt so good to just sit, with not a care in the world. I could not do anything if I had wanted to. I was in someone else's house.
Now I have to learn to just take time for just guilt for just relaxing...all those things will still be there later, and if I don't get to them for a while it will not be the end of the world. If I do not finish them in my lifetime, they will be there for someone else to do....
I need to be a kid again and just relax and have fun.......


  1. I totally agree with you, life is too short to be uptight with all we need to do. We always have something to seems to never end. I want to enjoy life now, not when everything is perfect. I had to learn this lesson...and sometimes I have to learn it again. Have a Great Day! Linda W.

  2. Wow! never thought of this.. but its true to the core... Everyone's waiting for something to be done and then we resolve to relax and have fun... turns out, as soon as that's done, the next idea's right there popping...

    You just uncovered the essence of life and all thing living for us...

  3. LMAO.. read this.. explains why you can't relax :p

    "Workaholics prefer to do most things by themselves rather than ask for help or designate someone else to do it. If they have no choice but to assign a project to someone else, they get impatient when they have to wait. They can't understand why something takes so long. Their definition of the term "too long" is "any time that's not now."

    Workaholics keep many irons in the fire and can't understand the relationship between that behavior and the zero leisure time. They are the first one to reach office and last one to leave.

    Workaholics believe that "layering" helps them to maximize their productivity. So whatever work they're doing at that moment, they add an extra layer or two on that. For example, they would eat their lunch and write a memo at the same time. If they receive a call during that time, then they would try to do three things all at one time. They overly commit themselves and live in constant frustration for biting off more than they can chew. They're unable to relax because they feel guilty when they are not working on something. Things never seem to move fast enough or get done fast enough for them. They lose their temper when things don't work out according to their time line.

    Research has shown that people on average, spends 98% of the waking time in thinking about the past or the future and only 2 % in the present. A workaholic spends 99% of the time mentally planning and thinking about the future tuning out the here and now. Thus, only 1 % of the time is divided between the present and the past.

    Workaholics spend more thought, time, and energy into their work than they do into their relationships with their loved ones. They tend to forget, ignore, or undermine birthdays, anniversaries, reunions, or other important social events.

    Have you heard anyone on his/her death-bed to say, "I wish I had spent more time in my office?"